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Introducing one-self is not easy,its like giving an open book exam.You have all the resources available with you in exam but you prefer to write what you remember rather than wasting time in searching. Similarly while you introduce your self, you see what other's introductions are having & just copy and paste their hobby as your Hobby, their interest as your interest. You never see whats there inside you. I never find easy to articulate my self so here I am....expressing my self to the world, to see myself from inside.... The first step is to give my formal introduction.... My self Nikhilesh(aka nicky) also supposed to be an electronics engineer. Have done M.TECH. in Optical Communication from IIT DELHI. I was in TU/Eindhoven (The Nehterlands) for one year as a research scholar. Currently I am working as a SW QA Engg in Infinera Bangalore. My views are generally optimistic. While doing any work, the last thing I would do is to loose hope. People say I am innocent but I know the depth of innocency. I like to be with myself but I am not agoraphobiac, instead I love to travel. I am charged by observing different people and their cultures.

Friday, January 16, 2015

The fear of getting the right match

When we pass the teenage and goes into the stage of adulthood, we become physically and mentally ready for marriage. But one fear about getting the right prospect for marriage start bothering.
In India, we mainly follow concept of arranged marriage. Family play a big role in introducing the boy and the girl. First the family meet and then both the prospects meet for quite a short duration and in that short duration they decide that weather they are ready to live whole life with other person or not. If yes, then they fall in love instantly else they may postpone or deny it. It may seem very odd process for some culture but that is how the things are here.
In India, marriage is not only the unification of two person rather its unification of two families. Two family becomes one big family. So they decide, weather they want to be together or not.
Still we have so many requirement for our prospects. It is said that marriages happens in heaven. So some one is made for you in the heaven and we meet that person on the earth and merry them.
But the main problem is to recognize that person. The problem is not that we don't find anyone, the problem is we find many such and get confused on whom to choose.
Who will be more suitable. Some may match with your Kundali. Some may match with your nature. Some understand your feelings, some keeps you in your comfort zone. Some are traditional, some are typical, some are conservative, some are more open, some are easy to believe on, some are hard to refuse, some rocks, some sucks. And we look for the perfect match. made in heaven type of match.

But if we really want to choose the best. We can close our eyes and choose any one of them. I tell you the real secret of relationship. A boy and a girl in a relationship are like two parallel lines. They should not be like two lines pointing towards each other. Means the focus of one person should not be towards other person always because pointing line matches at one time and then again separates out. whereas the parallel lines always go together and meets at infinity. So if both girl and boy have a common goal for society, for themselves or anything. This common goal motivates them, keeps them busy and they keep the love alive and fresh always. Love blossoms, flourishes and give fragrence to others.